Itoze guhangana n’Ingorane: Igira Ku Mitekerereze y’abagize icyo bageraho

Ubushobozi bwo guhangana n’ibibazo no gusubira inyuma ni urufunguzo rwo kugufasha kurushaho kwihangana kandi amaherezo ukabigeraho. Birashoboka ko tutavutse dufite ubwo bushobozi. None, umuntu yabukura he? Reka tubirebe. Uzabona inama z’ingirakamaro z’uburyo wakwifasha guhangana no gutsinda ingorane, wigira ku mitekerereze y’abatsinze.

Dutangire dufata urugero, Maria Konikova washoboye gusobanura neza gusubira inyuma; akaba yarabonye ko isomo ry’ingenzi yize muri uru rugendo rwe rw’imyaka ibiri yo kuba umukinnyi wabigize umwuga.

Konikova afite intwaro y’ibanga!

Yavuze ko ubuzima mu gihe cy’icyorezo cya Coronavirus busaba ibirenze gutunga ubumenyi n’imico wishingikirizaho kugira ngo bigufashe mu kazi kawe cyangwa mu buzima bwawe bw’umwuga ndetse n’umuntu ku giti cye.

Yongeyeho ati: ” Muri iki kibazo  gitunguranye, amagambo uvuga n’inkuru wibwira ni ngombwa kuruta mbere hose. ”

Ushobora kugira icyo wiga  uhereye kuriyi ngingo? Rwose.

Gira imitekerereze myiza

Ni ukuri, imitekerereze mibi hamwe no kwiheba bizagutera kunanirwa no gucika intege. Niba wibwira ko udashoboye kuyobora ahazaza hawe uzatakaza ejo hazaza hawe, utitaye ku mbaraga nyinshi washyizemo kugirango ugere kubyo wifuza cyangwa urota.

Abantu bishoboye bibanda kubikorwa ntabwo ari ibisubizo. Bagerageza gufata ibyemezo byiza, kandi bizera ko gutsindwa kwabo bidasobanura ko badafite ibyo basabwa kugirango batsinde. Bazi ko nibakomeza gufata ibyemezo byiza bazatsinda ingorane zose nibibasubiza inyuma kandi bagere ku ntsinzi.

Nibyiza, ibihe by’ubukungu ntabwo byateganijwe. Rero, burigihe bitesha umutwe imitekerereze yacu kuri ba rwiyemezamirimo n’abashoramari, urugamba rurakomeye. Birashobokako buri wese aba yibaza aho ubukungu bwe buba bugezeiyo hataza iki cyorezo cyangije cyane ubukungu bw’isi yose.

Aho kumva udafite ibyiringiro no gutsindwa, ugomba kwibaza urukurikirane rw’ibibazo, harimo:  Ese nigeze mfata ibyemezo byiza? Nunguka kandi nkongera ubumenyi buzamfasha kugera ku rwego rwiza mu buzima bwanjye? Ndashaka amahirwe muri iki kibazo?

Amagambo ukoresha mu gihe utegura ikibazo cyangwa uhanganye n’ikibazo azahindura imiterere yawe ya none, utezimbere imitekerereze yawe, kandi utume ubwenge bwawe buguma bwuguruye ku bintu bishya mu gihe abandi babona inzitizi nyinshi.

Uko uhitamo neza amagambo, niko umwuka mwiza wawe na roho nziza bizamuka. Ibisubizo? Uzaba umuntu mwiza ushimishije – Ukurura abantu bagufasha mubuzima, bagutera inkunga kandi bagufata ukuboko kugirango bakuyobore mu ntangiriro yinzira nshya.

Hindura ibisobanuro by’ibyabaye

Hariho ubushakashatsi bw’imitekerereze buzwi nka “cognitive reappraisal”, buvuga gusa mugutegura ibintu byiza mubihe bibi uhindura ibisobanuro by’ibyabaye hamwe n’amagambo yakoreshejwe.

Ubushakashatsi bwakorewe muri kaminuza ya Columbia bwasuzumye ubwonko bwerekanye ko imitekerereze yacu itera impinduka z’umubiri mu bwonko bwacu. Muri ubu bushakashatsi, byagaragaye ko amygdala; agace kajyanye n’ubwoba n’amaganya, byagabanutse mu bikorwa mugihe abitabiriye amahugurwa basabwe gusuzuma ikibazo kibi no kugikemura mu buryo bwiza.

Ubundi bushakashatsi bwinshi bwerekanye ko iyi mitekerereze ifasha abakinnyi kandi ikabahindura ibihangange. Urugero, umukinnyi wa basketball, Kobe Bryant yavuze ko igihe kimwe, ibyo gutsindwa bitabaho, naho Michael Jordan yavuze ko adashobora gutsinda ibitego ibihumbi n’ibihumbi mu mwuga we, ariko ibyo gusubira inyuma ntibyababujije ndetse n’abandi bantu bakomeye kugera ku ntsinzi, nta nubwo byababujije kugerageza inshuro zirenze imwe.

Nanone, umuhanga mu bya filozofiya akaba n’umuhanga mu by’imitekerereze ya muntu witwa William James yigeze kuvuga ati “ikintu gikomeye abantu bo mu gisekuru cyanjye bavumbuye ni uko umuntu abasha guhindura ubuzima bwe mu gihe ahinduye imyumvire ku bintu bimwe na bimwe.”

Impamba? Hindura imyifatire yawe wibwire inkuru ifite ingufu, gira ubutwari, kandi wizere ko ubuzima bwawe buzahinduka rwose, kandi bikarushaho kuba byiza.